In This Edition:
1. May Flowers
2. What Is Important To You
3. Your Priority Card
May Flowers
It was Spring here last week, then it turned cold and now it appears to be
spring again. Funny, years back Spring seemed to arrive with clarity and
stay. Now it dodges and weaves, and by the time you know that it has
settled in for good, it's practically summer. Oh well, that's nature biz!
What Is Important To You
Do you identify something as important to you and then give it no energy?
Do other lesser items get much more of your attention? If so, chances are
you haven't identified what's important to you -- you only have lingering
notions. For example, Jason says he values seeing his parents often, but he
only makes the 36-mile round trip twice a year, once in the late Spring,
once in late December. Carolyn says enjoying the weekends is important to
her, but she's worked 12 Saturdays in a row.
Making and reaffirming choices about what is important and how you would
like to allocate your resources is crucial. As I tell my audiences, you
need to make your choices away from the rabble, and to acknowledge the fixed
components of your existence. So what's fixed? Youth, young adulthood, and
middle age are finite. Your productive work life is finite. Change is
guaranteed. Life is finite; death is guaranteed.
The choices confronting most individuals often come down to the same few
issues: career advancement versus a happy home life; income goals versus
income needs; and social, peer or employment induced priorities versus
individual wants or needs.
The things most meaningful to you in life are, by definition, your
priorities. Priorities are broad elements of life, and they often become
misplaced somewhere within your daily high-wire balancing act. In this
society and in this era, it is wise to have only a few priorities. If you
have too many, you're not likely to respect each of them. At some point,
too many priorities become paradoxical -- only a few concerns can be of
priority!
So, in establishing your priorities, I suggest the following:
- List everything that is important or that you wish to accomplish.
Initially over-pick, as Prince would say "let's go crazy." Here are some
examples of priorities you might choose: "Providing for the education of my
children." "Achieving financial independence."
"Maintaining my loving, happy marriage." Or, "working for world peace."
- Go back and assess your list. Eliminate the nice but, on second
inspection, not so important items.
- Next, combine any items that are similar in nature. Having too many
priorities leads to frustration and despair, similar to what you've got now.
- Rewrite, redefine, or restructure any of your choices. If you're not
sure of an item, feel free to delete it.
- Put your list away for another day, then review it again.
- During your review delete, combine, or rethink any of the items remaining. If something seems less important, drop it -- you have
everything to gain. You can't afford the responsibility of more priorities
than you can support!
- Complete your list, for now -- priorities can change.
For sure, your priorities may change radically as years pass. They are
always based on deeply felt needs or desires, usually representing
challenging but ultimately rewarding choices.
Your Priority Card
For maximum benefit, I suggest writing your priorities on small
business-size cards. Keep one in your wallet, one in your appointment book,
and one in your car.
Read your priority list as often as you can. Reading your priority list
frequently contributes to your sensation of breathing space -- it's
invigorating when you're actively supporting what you've chosen as
important. It isn't overkill to review a list of your life's priorities
every day; in fact, it is a superior approach to controlling your life.
